Leaders & Daughters - To My Daughter

Why Not You?


My Little One,

You are now 5 years old, and we couldn’t be more grateful that you’re in our lives. You have a beautiful journey ahead, so allow me to share some thoughts that I think will help you along the way.

Your grandparents raised me to think that I could be whomever and do whatever I wished. All professions and activities were accessible to me and your aunt during our childhoods. I remember getting dirty playing team sports, swimming farther than any other kid in the sea, and dreaming of being an important scientist one day. Looking back, I believe that it was a blessing that I didn’t realize until my teenage years that some people held preconceived notions about what was appropriate for girls, as opposed to boys.

The realities of gender inequality became clear to me when I was one of only a few women sitting in the engineering school in Spain. Somehow I was different, and it made me question whether I belonged. But there was one question that I asked myself and that helped me when facing moments of self-doubt: If others can, why not me?

Yes, why not me?

This question has helped me throughout my career in tech. It has pushed me to try new things, and to are to take on projects that scared me. One new step, one new responsibility, one new country, one new speech. And all of a sudden, you look back and see how far you’ve gone. When you face moments of doubt, think that if others can do this, especially your Mama, then why not you?

You have greatness inside and need to find your own way to express it. Be courageous and live your life to its full potential. Don’t let fears or insecurities stop you from realizing your dreams. You can be the best scientist, poet, doctor, teacher, musician or mathematician you wish. Whatever your choice is, do it to the fullest, with passion and dedication. Marvel at what you discover and share it with the people you love. Since when it comes down to it, the goal is to be happy. Have a life that makes YOU happy in spite of what others think.

I’ll be here for you.

Tu Mama

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